"Oh, please don't do that. That's so painfully dumb".

I was watching youtube clips today and not doing my assignment due Monday afternoon [and now I'm blogging. So studious], and I got around to some things of Tom Hardy. And I stumbled across this one clip that involved a mention of homosexuality. And pretty much, it was two hosts of some internet show saying that some [dumbass] interviewer asked Tom Hardy whether he'd ever had gay sex. Now, it bothers me enough that it's even an issue, today, in the 21st century, in a 'free' country, and that some people still kick up a fuss over homosexuality. But to ask that in an interview of an entirely genius actor is just plain rude, stupid, and entirely irrelevant to the cause.

However, Hardy basically replied and said [in summary] "yeah, I tried it. There were some aspects I enjoyed, some I didn't. And I still identify pretty well with gay men. So yeah, I've given it a go, but now, in my 30s, for whatever reason it just doesn't do it for me anymore".

And this brought a ton of ideas and feelings to the surface that bother me at different times. Because what he said was just so honest and "This is who I am. Don't care what you think", and to my mind provided such a stark contrast to all of those fakers, both in the celebrity world and in real life, who contort their self-image to meet a superficial end. One of the hosts then went on to say that he hopes that nobody on the movie scene starts to discriminate based on his statement, like taking away any lead roles or whatever. And I like the way he worded the next bit, so I quote: "Oh, please don't do that. That's so painfully dumb".

So I guess it's kind of two things that struck me. One, the world needs more people like Tom Hardy, who take things as they are and don't mince around the issue. And seriously people. It's not as though I'm gay, and I'm not exactly smart, but even I know that homosexuality is not a disease. You're not going to 'catch' it off somebody. It's not repulsive. If two people love each other, no matter what sex they are, then others should grow the hell up and respect that. Because it doesn't mean that they're intellectually lacking, that they have yet to 'see the light', and most importantly, it doesn't make them bad people.

And two, I wish more people could be so honest about themselves. You see it everywhere, the people who just try so hard to be part of the 'in' crowd, who try to be cool, who manipulate themselves into a better light, who are, in short, reflections of other people or shallow replications of who they wish they could be. It just makes me think of all the times I wished I were somebody else because they were 'cooler', or told white lies to smooth over my image, or pretended to like something just because people I looked up to liked it, or let other people sway my own decisions or perceptions of something. I mean, I should know better, right? Learned all that shit in psychology. Sometimes it's good to follow the crowd, and it's good to be a sheep. Like if everyone else is running away from a fire, it's probably a good idea to run with them. But when it comes to yourself and who you are... I believe it's good to take interest in what other people are saying and doing, so that you're not living in an egocentric bubble, but really... make your own opinions. And be your own person. And fuck society or anyone who tells you you're doing it wrong, that you're not cool, that what you like is stupid.

So the bottom line is: Don't be worried about showing your true colors. Because at least you're living honestly. And if any one person is decent, they should respect that, even if they don't agree with you. Because with some things, there is no right and wrong. Only opinions, different perspectives and interpretations. Roll with it.